sex and the single girl

over the past few weeks, my roommates and i have discovered a rather glaring fact about ourselves--that being the inordinate amount of time we spend discussing sex.  each of us is single, and perhaps with the lack of any real relationship we have moved from the topics of love and commitment and onto the more available world of physical attraction and satisfaction.  we have covered almost every base when it comes to this most human of actions--from the act itself, to whether we sleep naked after, to the right way to behave in the morning.  the category that we return to most, however, is the way in which we treat sex within our own peer group; the very, very casual nature with which it is acted upon by university students.  have we become disenchanted by sex?

i know that this is not a question for our male counterparts, for, as far as i know, sex remains the be all and end all of closeness.  i am the last to say that sex isn't enjoyable, but as put by one of my very wise roommates: are we really mature enough for this?  we are 20 years old, smart, funny, pretty (on most days), and we are able to laugh and chat about sex as though we are the characters on sex and the city.  perhaps we are the sex and the city generation: brought up in a society where an openness about our sex lives is not only welcome, but expected, and mistakes in judgement or a got-into-bed-with-him-too-early situation is to be learned from rather than condemned.  whether this means that we are more liberated or just plain irresponsible and careless, remains to be seen.  

as much as we talk about the issues of casualness and maturity when it comes to sex, i don't see any of this changing in the near future.  perhaps this isn't anything new and our parent's generation experienced the same thing as they emerged into adulthood.  in the meantime, i expect we'll continue to sleep with the same people without actually building a real relationship.  maybe i've got this all wrong though.  maybe it isn't the sex or the physical attraction that requires maturity, but the relationship.  but none of really seems ready or willing to move toward one of these rather rare and real connections, even though each of us have had multiple opportunities.  we shall see.  we shall see.

P.S. i think a bit of an apology is in order for our extended hiatus.  we have all been a bit busy with exams, and then holidays, and then enjoying the first few drunken weeks of semester.  but we are back now. hola